Resolutions? No way!

I’ve written about resolutions many times on this blog. Use the search bar to find older articles – they are still relevant.

I keep at it  because resolutions don’t work.

Here’s what the research shows. According to U.S. News, 80% of people give up on their New Year’s resolutions by the second week in February. A study conducted by researchers at the University of Scranton found that 23% of people quit their resolution after just one week. And only 19% of individuals are actually able to stick to their goals long term (two years, in the case of the study). Somewhere between 81 percent and 92 percent of New Year’s Resolutions fail. And I could go on and on.

There are reasons resolutions don’t work. All too often, we…

  • do not have a clear sense of our life purpose, vision and mission;
  • are not aligned with our life purpose;
  • don’t have a sense of what has to be given up in order to achieve those new goals;
  • aren’t ready for the change, don’t plan for it, and have no self-monitoring as we don’t understand how to form different and positive habits;
  • don’t have a supportive environment as those around us don’t want us to change because that means that their world also changes; and
  • are missing the coaching and community support we need to follow through on our vision, plans and goals.

And here’s the hidden reason:

Most of us make our New Year’s Resolutions from a place of unworthiness, feeling like something is wrong with or broken in us, feeling judgment about ourselves, feeling like we’re not good enough as we are. From this place of negativity and punitive thoughts, we set ourselves up for an onslaught of self-shaming, self-blaming, and self-sabotage cycles.

Check out this wonderful article by James Clear, author of Atomic Habits for ways to make the wanted shifts in your life. Then get on with living this great and wonderful year ahead of you!!

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