Myths and truths of dieting….

Dieting gives us purpose. It keeps us on the straight and narrow path toward unveiling the beautiful, skinny person that lives inside of us.


Binges and overeating reinforce just how undisciplined, apathetic and hopeless we really are. Dieting is our consistent way of getting it right.



We worship the god of love, light and peace through restriction and deprivation. By dieting, we prove how punitive parts of us can be, how long other parts can live in deprivation, how tough we are. Through diets, we show our strength and find validation of our goodness.


Life will be perfect when our skinny jeans fit, when the weight that limits our capacity to find love or the perfect job, and that separates our heart, soul and mind falls off our body. We think skinny people have perfect lives and reach out and take what they want — because of their weight!


Absurd, isn’t it? The story continues…

Restrictive eating is how we obtain perfection by diminishing fat bellies, thighs and hips, banning cellulite, and creating a steadier state of mind. We pack away nagging thoughts and feelings we can’t tolerate and put a pretty bow on top.


Diets fix us and stop the emotional parts of us that are married to being less than, undesirable, unredeemable—like shame, guilt, and abandonment. Diets fill the empty space and our dissatisfaction with our selves and life fades away.



It doesn’t work that way.

Diets numb us to reality. The part of you that restricts hides the truth. The part that binges conceals your true nature. The part that overeats covers your soul.

Compulsive eating is a bright red Exit sign when life isn’t what you signed up for. Restricting is a refusal to play that game any longer. You pulse between fullness and emptiness as a control mechanism to mask the parts of that hold unhappiness.

What will you hold onto, what is your purpose, who are you if you don’t diet and obsess all day about how your flabbiness defines you, rice cakes acknowledge your strength, and salads sans dressing demonstrate your fortitude?


You hold onto the present moment—without judgment. You listen to your breath. You feel your heart beating. You acknowledge you are alive and worthy to be who you are! You discover your purpose is not to punish yourself but to celebrate all the different parts of you, to bring more beauty into the world simply by being you, joyful you. You discover your Self—where Compassion, Clarity, and Connection reside.

Your relationship with food is a powerful coping strategy in dealing with a painful past. There are parts of you that hold tight to that story. There are better strategies now to cope. You can integrate them and heal yourself.

I get it, I do understand. It’s easier to continue punishing yourself, to push down and cover up the parts of you that hold the painful feelings with food instead of patiently listening to them.  So they can let go of old beliefs that no longer are needed to protect you. Your obsession with body and food appears to give you purpose, quiets the ugly roar of life, and occupies you so you don’t have time to really face the music. It robs you of pleasure, joy, and the abundance of bliss that is your birthright.

The truth leaves you vulnerable. That’s scary.

Standing in your truth, your vulnerable parts stop stuffing down your essence with cookies and ice cream. You do the Courageous work of being present and open-hearted to get in touch with the parts of you that hold old stories that no longer define or support you.

Diets are an illusion. The rhythm of restriction and binging is not real.


Ultimately, it’s not about the number on the scale or the shape or size of your body. It’s about finding Connection, of satisfying your deep internal desire to belong, and of glimpses of the light of your truest essence— to the full revelation of the cadence of your core. The pulsation within the heart of who you really are.

It’s about believing in your own authentic voice. And quieting the voices that no longer serve.

Heart happy oats

Bagels, lox and cream cheese loaded with capers make my belly do a happy dance. Cheesy grits and eggs are a warming comfort food on brrrrrrr cold New England days. Yet, neither do much to lower my high cholesterol, a genetic gift from both my folks. So bah humbug I turn toward boring and beige oatmeal instead. Wait! Oatmeal can be divine.

This is my new luscious dish of decadent delights. Extra-thickly cut old-fashioned oats with Sunview jumbo raisins simmered with a bit more water than Bob’s Red Mill calls for lends an ultra-creamy texture filled with plumb fruit. Pour steamy, creamy oatmeal atop diced Honey Crisp apples and sprinkle with pecans, walnuts and almonds for crunch. Maple syrup makes them especially New England-like, yet some may want to use a non-nutritive sweetener like stevia. Either way, you’re ready for a wintery treat that keeps you full for a long, long time.

Coconut oil not all it’s cracked up to be

The latest hype is coconut oil, coconut milk, shredded coconut, coconut manna, and MCT oil (medium-chain triglycerides). Those invested in high fat, high protein dietary intakes for weight loss and overall health could be advised to stay on top of your cholesterol levels, especially if high cholesterol is an issue in your medical profile or your family history. Check out this previous post for more details about this.

Watch this video by Dr. Michael Gregor to see the evidence that supports avoiding coconut oil and using monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats in cooking and salad dressings, especially focusing on organic extra-virgin first cold-expeller pressed olive oil, olives, nuts, seeds, and avocado.



Eat a rainbow of color

And I don’t mean Skittles! Phytonutrients are chemicals produced by plants. Phytonutrients give plants their pigmentation, which simply means the more colors you eat, the more phytonutrients for your body. A good way to tell whether a fruit or a vegetable is rich in phytonutrients is by the depth and intensity of its color. That’s why we are encourage to eat the more saturated dark green leafy greens, red, yellow, green and orange sweet bell pepper and purple eggplant, plums, and grapes, among others.

Phytonutrient-rich foods include not only fruit and vegetables rich in hue, but also legumes, nuts, tea, whole grains and many spices. They can provide significant health benefits for the human body.



So what’s under the rainbow?

Red—flavonoids & lycopene

  • Healthy heart and strong memory
  • Tomatoes, strawberries, cherries, apples, red peppers, watermelon, etc.

Yellow & Orange—beta-carotene

  • Healthy eyes and good immune function
  • Carrots, oranges, pineapple, sweet potatoes, mangoes, pumpkins, cantaloupes, etc.

Green—chlorophyll, carotenoids, isothiocyanates

  • Healthy bones, teeth and eyes
  • Spinach, green peas, cucumbers, broccoli, bok choy, cabbage, asparagus, etc.

Blue & Purple—anthocyanin

  • Healthy aging and strong memory
  • Eggplant, blueberries, purple grapes, purple cabbage, figs, beets, dark beans, etc.


  • Healthy heart and hood cholesterol levels
  • Onion, garlic, ginger, chives, mushrooms, jicama, etc.

Easiest guarantee to get all the nutrients a body needs is by following the yellow brick road to somewhere over the rainbow!

“Well,” said Pooh, ….

….”what I like best…,” and then he had to stop and think. Because Eating Honey was a very good thing to do, there was a moment just before you began to eat it which was better than when you were, but he didn’t know what it was called. ~A.A. Milne

In my world, we call this infinite spacious place in time that really lasts only a few seconds our Self. The unbroken, whole, and complete aspect of our being that we are reminded of in moments of sweet bliss – like Pooh’s Eating Honey experiences. Self appears in meditation, when we hug, see a spectacular piece of Nature, or basking in the love of someone dear. Even puppy breath and wobbly new kittens can evoke Self. 

Four qualities and characteristics of Self energy are compassion, clarity, connection, and curiosity. I can just see Pooh now, eyeing that jar of honey, imagining what it would be like when honey meets his tongue, remembering the feeling of past indulgences, fantasizing the event even before it’s real. Curiously in awe and wonder of that moment about to be.

Self is an innate gift and inherent quality of our being. I’m curious how you perceive these qualities in your life:

  • Compassion
  • Connection
  • Curiosity
  • Clarity
  • Creativity
  • Calmness
  • Courage
  • Confident

Spend some time in meditation and reflection. Let me know – I’m eager to hear…….

Good Measures